(VIDEO)Remarkable Relationships, REALLY a Fantastic Formula!

Never knew MEN were more hormonal than women!

(VIDEO)Remarkable Relationships, REALLY a Fantastic Formula!

So, I’ve been taught all my life that women are more complex creatures hormonally than men.  It turns out that not only is it NOT true, it’s not even CLOSE to being true! Conan O’Brien has Sex Mathematician Clio Cresswell on his show to reveal the mathematical formula for male and female hormones.  You will be SURPRISED at who has the most complex formulas!   Watch the video below to see why I say that Remarkable relationships, REALLY a Fantastic Formula!  It is PG-13 FYI. (IF you subscribe, please click the weblink to view at mikehattabaugh.com)

Remarkable Relationships, REALLY a Fantastic Formula!

So, did that surprise you as much as it did me?  It turns out the hormonal fluctuations of men are happening more rapidly than women.  It might explain a lot of things, but one thing is sure, we don’t really understand the impact of hormonal waves that happen to men daily.  Maybe we should spend more time trying to figure out each other and realize that our emotional and physical well-being are changing all of the time.  It’s also why we should not take a momentary emotional reaction as the “end” of the discussion and instead try to communicate at another time when the hormones are at a different place. Remarkable Relationships, REALLY a Fantastic Formula!

What do YOU think about the complicated formula for men?  What about women?  How do you see these affecting your relationships and do they explain anything you already knew?  I would LOVE to hear from you in the comments below!

mike hattabaugh relationshipsSo get out there and-

Make YOUR Relationships GREAT!

Dr. Mike

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Whose right? My Dogs Teach a Relationship Lesson

Meet Sammy and Peanut, my two lovable Golden Retrievers!  I use them to show us a relationship tip!

My Dogs Teach a Relationship Lesson

I should have turned the camera sideways, but still, a great lesson on why being “right” can ruin a relationship and what to do about it!

Who’s Right? My dogs teach a relationship lesson!

What do you think?  Leave a comment below!  And please like this video on youtube!  It helps us reach even more people like you who want to make their relationships great!

1642b735-08e3-4790-823e-5772612c267bSo get out there and-

Make YOUR Relationships GREAT!

Dr. Mike

Want more help connecting with your partner’s love language? Consider a valuable coaching session with Dr. Hattabaugh!   Schedule a   LIVE relationship coaching session HERE!

How to Love Someone with Quality Time

How to Love Someone with Quality Time

Dr. Gary Chapman is his book The Five Love Languages, discusses how we all like to give and receive love in 5 specific ways.  Many of my readers have asked me to explain how to love someone in their love language.  If you don’t know what your love language is, or your partners start by going to Dr. Chapman’s site and take the test. This fourth article will help you love someone with Quality Time as their love language.

love someone with quality time

I started going shopping with my wife on Saturday afternoons.  Not because I really want to go.  I would much rather watch a football game or hang out at the house.  I go because I am showing her love the way SHE recognizes it.  Her secondary love language is quality time.  Going shopping with her fills her love tank and lets her know that just “hanging out” with her is worth missing a game on TV.  When you love someone with quality time, you don’t have to do anything expensive or super creative.  They just want your presence and proximity to them.  Sure, depending on their other love language you might have a conversation, hold hands, or serve them, but just being there means a lot to people with this love language.

In this post, I want to give you 3 ways on how to love someone with quality time.

How to Love Someone with Quality Time:

love someone with quality time1 – It’s about doing it TOGETHER (not what you are doing).

The biggest mistake I hear about with this love language is people want to do something special.  If you have this love language, you don’t care what you are doing, just that you are doing it together.  You can wash dishes, do laundry, go for a walk or any seemingly boring task and the person with this love language will enjoy the time with you.  They just want you there with them.

I was told by a student that their father reads the paper every morning in a room their mother is doing crafts.  Every morning.  No words are spoken, just his presence in her work room.  She loves it, because he is “hanging out”.

You can find many things to just “hang out” together.  Look for opportunities to be in their space.

love someone with quality time2 – It’s about being WITH them (not them doing what you want to do).

I know a guy who wanted his wife to go fishing with him.  He thought that would be “quality time”.  She went when they were dating, but quit after they were married.  He thought she enjoyed their time together, but he did not spend time doing anything she wanted to do. Shopping and going out were “not fun”. So he didn’t go.  Soon, they quit being together at all and the relationship ruptured.

Quality time is about them doing something they want to do or have to do.  They may choose to “hang out” with you to love you, but if you want them to feel loved, you have to choose their time, not invite them into yours.

love someone with quality time3 – It’s about FOCUS (not about length of time).

Most mornings my wife and I have a cup of coffee in our living room together.  It can last from 10 minutes to an hour.  We are both on our iPads, reading and engaging online.  We don’t say much, but we are doing something together.  The length of time doesn’t matter.

People who struggle to love their partners with this love language usually think it will take up all their time.  It doesn’t have to.  Just be fully present for a length of time.  If you are itching to get it over with, the other person will see that and not feel the “quality” time.  Focus on what you are doing!

love someone with quality time4 – It’s about loving THEM (so ask them if you are doing it right).

If you don’t have this love language, you probably don’t fully grasp how to love someone with it.  When non-English speakers try to speak English – it can be funny.  The unusual pronunciations and irregular verbs make English hard to grasp for someone who doesn’t know it very well.  Quality time can also be like this.

This love language requires more feedback than most of the others.  Feel free to ask your partner or friend if they are enjoying the time you are spending with them.  It might take a bit of tweaking to let them feel the “quality” in the time you are investing.

So, let’s review:

How to Love Someone with Quality Time:

1 – It’s about doing it TOGETHER (not what you are doing).

2 – It’s about being WITH them (not them doing what you want to do).

3 – It’s about FOCUS (not about length).

4 – It’s about loving THEM (so ask them if you are doing it right).

If you really want to love someone, you will make the adjustments to let them feel loved in their love language.  This language can be done DURING activities that engage the other love languages.  Having a good conversation, helping with a chore, or even holding their hand on the couch can make this a 2-1 time and connect at even deeper levels.

To Read more about the other 4 Love languages click on the links below:

Words of Affirmation

mike hattabaugh relationshipsActs of Service

Giving and Receiving Gifts

So get out there and-

Make YOUR Relationships GREAT!

Dr. Mike

Want more help connecting with your partner’s love language? Consider a valuable coaching session with Dr. Hattabaugh!   Schedule a   LIVE relationship coaching session HERE!

 

How to Love Someone with Gifts

For Me? – How to Love Someone with Gifts

Dr. Gary Chapman is his book The Five Love Languages, discusses how we all like to give and receive love in 5 specific ways.  Many of my readers have asked me to explain how to love someone in their love language.  If you don’t know what your love language is, or your partners start by going to Dr. Chapman’s site and take the test. This second article will help you love someone with Gifts as their love language. (more…)

how to love someone with gifts

How to Love Someone with Acts of Service

How to love Someone with acts of service

“Don’t tell me you love me, show me!”

Dr. Gary Chapman is his book The Five Love Languages, discusses how we all like to give and receive love in 5 specific ways.  Many of my readers have asked me to explain how to love someone in their love language.  If you don’t know what your love language is, or your partners start by going to Dr. Chapman’s site and take the test. This second article will help you love someone with acts of service.

Love Someone with Acts of Service

I had a long day.  I wanted to come home and hear my wife tell me she loved me and give me a hug.  Instead, I had to search for her.  She was in the kitchen, supper was on the stove, and she was washing dishes.

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22 FUN things you can do with your partner this weekend!

22 FUN things you can do with your partner this weekend!

I hear from people all the time: “There’s nothing to do!”  Yes, there is, you just need to get some ideas percolating. Want to spice up your relationship?  Nothing like getting outside your normal routine and smiling at each other. Here is a bullet list of fun things you can do with your partner right away!

FUN things you can do with your partner

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My Best Advice on Sex, Relationships, and Marriage

My Best Advice on Sex, Relationships, and Marriage

Sex is easy.  My dog can have sex.  Sexual Intimacy is hard, but everything meaningful is hard.

Advice on Sex, Relationships, and Marriage

I just read another CRAZY article about couples giving permission to have sex with another person outside of marriage.  As if it’s a new idea! We’ve been getting married and having affairs for thousands of years.  Society has lost its mind on relationships and the horrific collateral damage has made many young people feel like a healthy relationship is out of reach.  I have talked with hundreds of young men and women that feel like their ability to find a partner for life has been taken from them in a cruel change of the rules.  Enough!  I want to propose a part plan to introduce healthy relationship and marriage skills to a desperate culture. This is my best advice on sex, relationships, and marriage. (more…)

How to Win a Girl’s Heart

What Good Guys Must Do to Woo Her

How to Win a Girl’s Heart

At least once a month a guy wanders into my office to ask me a few questions.  It usually goes something like: I really like this girl but she won’t have anything to do with me.  What can I do?  They are surprised when they find out most of what they do is actually turning her away.  Have hope!  Most guys have to learn how to get the girl of their dreams.  I’m here to help! Follow these steps to win a girl’s heart.

Win a girl's heart

Most girls can tell you their creepy guy story.  The guy that tries too hard or tries to force himself on a girl.  She is turned off by most of what a guy thinks works to get her.  He is surprised when his determination and effort is not only turned away, but she tells him to leave her alone.  FOREVER. Poor guy! (more…)

One Daring Trick to Make Your Partner Delightful

One Daring Trick to Make Your Partner Delightful

It’s the holy grail of relationships.

One Daring Trick to Make Your Partner Delightful

People who discover and actually use this trick will see the most improvement of ANY of the things couples can do to be better communicators.  It’s a simple trick, but most people don’t actually think of it when they have communication issues with their partner.  You need to know the one daring trick to make your partner delightful.

What is it?   (more…)