You Can Communicate with ANYONE!

It's up to YOU to adapt to connect with others.

Communicate with ANYONE!  REALLY!

This video shows how finding the right way to communicate with someone is more important that what we have to say.  We can communicate with anyone. Most of us get mad when we can’t connect with someone, BUT if you listen, you can adapt to their communication needs and find a path to understanding.

Those Who Adjust, Inspire

Over the last two years I've traveled the world and met nearly a thousand humans diagnosed with different conditions.This experience has taught me one universal rule that will allow you to form a meaningful bond with anyone.

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Try not to smile when you watch this!! AND let me know in the comments below what you learned from it!  I know I learned I can be even more sensitive to paying attention to what others are showing me and how I can meet them where they are.
– Mike

How to Love Someone with Gifts

For Me? – How to Love Someone with Gifts

Dr. Gary Chapman is his book The Five Love Languages, discusses how we all like to give and receive love in 5 specific ways.  Many of my readers have asked me to explain how to love someone in their love language.  If you don’t know what your love language is, or your partners start by going to Dr. Chapman’s site and take the test. This second article will help you love someone with Gifts as their love language. (more…)

how to love someone with gifts

A Curious Way You can Stop Hate.

A curious way you can stop hate.

Once again, we have experienced untold tragedy in America.

We all were sickened by the horror that unfolded in Orlando on Sunday.  Once again, a crazy, armed to the teeth Islamic terrorist killed too many people.

way you can stop hate

What was more shocking to me were the memes, comments, and posts that came after.  Before the bodies were even removed from the building we were blaming.  We were hating.


One Daring Trick to Make Your Partner Delightful

One Daring Trick to Make Your Partner Delightful

It’s the holy grail of relationships.

One Daring Trick to Make Your Partner Delightful

People who discover and actually use this trick will see the most improvement of ANY of the things couples can do to be better communicators.  It’s a simple trick, but most people don’t actually think of it when they have communication issues with their partner.  You need to know the one daring trick to make your partner delightful.

What is it?   (more…)

Short Sweet and LOADS of FUN!

Short Sweet and LOADS of FUN!

I feel horrible.  I have a virus or the flu.  I don’t want to write, work, or think.  I want to go to bed.  But here I am cranking out at least a short blog post to keep my promise to you, my readers to publish every Tuesday and Friday.  I have lots of good blogs in the hopper, but they seem unreachable and uninspired at the moment, so I thought I would write something Short Sweet and LOADS of FUN!


That seems a bit funny coming from a sick person, but at times, we are all sick, including our relationships.  There are times when you need to back off the pressure of becoming the best couple you can be and just have some fun.  No deep conversations, no “what are we going to do about’s”, just fun. (more…)

3 Reasons Relationship Coaching Makes Your Life Better

3 Reasons Relationship Coaching makes your life better

Do you find yourself making the same mistakes and having the same arguments over and over in your relationship? Do you wish you had some clear answers on how to solve a recurring problem in your relationship/marriage?  Ever wonder if the advice you get from someone is really good or just what they would do?  If you have any of these questions, my new relationship coaching may be right for you. I know that relationship coaching makes your life better!

Relationship Coaching makes your life better

Coaching matters.

Sam Hill was the best coach I ever had.  The baseball teams he coached won a LOT.mpionships for 8 straight years.  I was lucky enough to be on 6 of those teams.  We went undefeated several of those championships.  I was never very good after those years and have come to realize, he made me the best I could ever be. (more…)

How Cancer Made My Marriage Better

and how you can improve your marriage as well.

How Cancer Made My Marriage Better

The phone rang in my office.  “Hi, Dr. Hattabaugh, this is Dr. Smith, your wife wanted me to call you.  It’s cancer.”

Cancer Made My Marriage Better

While we knew the lab results might tell us this, you are never quite ready for it.  No marriage is ever fully ready for this shot to the gut I felt when I found that out.  I was at a new job, and like most bad news I had trouble believing it.  But here is the weird thing – Cancer made my marriage better. (more…)

Desperate for Desire: Why you crave it

and the right way to use it.

Desperate for Desire

We are desperate for desire. To ignite passion and purpose.  To fully exist in a life with meaning.

Desperate for Desire

Some pursue it to the detriment of their health and relationships.  With reckless abandon, they choose desire over security.  They live firecracker lives with a short fuse and a loud bang.  Sex, drugs, and rock-n-roll.  Many public personalities pursue this form of desire.

Others try to muffle desire with morality and judgment.  It’s not surprising that moralists tend to publically fail from the very social “ills” they condemn.   Preachers who preach one thing as an “abomination”, then get caught doing the very thing they say is despicable.  Politicians who challenge us to live one way, while they seemingly ignore their own excess.

Most of us, and I think (and hope) I’m in this category, live what feels like a bi-polar life, chasing desire, then pushing it away when it gets too uncomfortable.  There is always this tension of living life to it’s fullest, but being liked by others.  Of being the “good girl” when your heart senses there is more to life.  This article is for you.

I want to talk to average people who try to live a good life, but seem to struggle with an inside “passion” for more.  I want you to hear something very clearly:

That voice is NOT bad. 


3 Fun Tips to Add Excitement to Your Relationship

3 Fun Tips to Add Excitement to Your Relationship

Relationships grow stale as we seek to become more secure and stable.  The excitement we had when we began becomes secondary to the daily routine relationships fall into.  I am specifically talking to long term married couples in this post, but any relationship that is losing the “fun” part can benefit from these 3 fun tips to add excitement to your relationship.

Fun Tips to Add Excitement to Your Relationship

The longer you have been together, the more likely you are thinking your relationship is going stale.  The number one reason I have heard in counseling over the years for stress in long-term relationships is the couple loses track of how to have fun like they did when they started dating.  The most common reason for an affair is one partner trying to create the excitement a new relationship creates.  Don’t have an affair, instead, try these 3 tips. (more…)

Why You Need to get OFF the Bandwagon

Why You Need to get OFF the Bandwagon

Advertising and Culture try to take us places.  They tell us everyone is going there.  They are right.  Everyone is going there, but why are you?  There is ONE reason why you need to get OFF the bandwagon.

why you need to get off the bandwagon

Everybody wants you to get on.  “Choose my politician”  “Choose my car” “Choose my lifestyle” Be like me.  Look like me. Believe like me.  If you spend any amount of time listening to the messages being thrown at you, you are bombarded with bandwagoners.  Some estimates say as many as 5000 messages a day.

There is one very simple reason to stop.  Here it is: (more…)