3 Reasons Relationship Coaching makes your life better
Do you find yourself making the same mistakes and having the same arguments over and over in your relationship? Do you wish you had some clear answers on how to solve a recurring problem in your relationship/marriage? Ever wonder if the advice you get from someone is really good or just what they would do? If you have any of these questions, my new relationship coaching may be right for you. I know that relationship coaching makes your life better!
Sam Hill was the best coach I ever had. The baseball teams he coached won a LOT.mpionships for 8 straight years. I was lucky enough to be on 6 of those teams. We went undefeated several of those championships. I was never very good after those years and have come to realize, he made me the best I could ever be.
How did Sam get us to perform so well? Great coaching. he wasn’t a great athlete or even a knowledgeable coach. Other coaches knew more about baseball and had better coaching technique, but Sam did 2 things nobody else did. One – he worked incredibly hard. We practiced more and longer than anyone else. We could have been more efficient, but those 4-hour practices made us disciplined. Two – He knew his players. He knew where to play us. he knew how to get us to perform. He understood emotional intelligence in an “old school” sort of way that allowed him to tell us the right things at the right time. He inspired us to be our best.
While most of us can’t imagine playing a sport without a coach, we often don’t think of how a coach might help us in other areas of our lives, specifically in our relationships/marriage. Many people trudge through their relationships without realizing that there are “experts” who can significantly improve the communication and understanding between their partner in an effective and often quick way.
I want to give you 3 reasons relationship coaching makes your life better.
There are much more, but the 3 I find most helpful are:
Reason #1 Relationship Coaching makes your life better – You can see old problems in a new light.
Why do we call automobiles “cars”? Because they replaced horse-drawn “carriages” over time. We still watch the “tube”, artists come out with new “records”, we “rewind” our DVR and dozens of old phrases that don’t fit our times. Relationships are no different. Both man and woman can get stuck in old patterns and language.
A coach can see some of these patterns and help you create a new pattern. Whether working with the couple or just one member of a relationship, a new pattern can sometimes revolutionize how you are interacting. A simple realization can turn a major issue into a small manageable one. I once saw a couple that couldn’t make decisions together. he was a contractor and she was a teacher. When I coached them to realize that their decision-making process was actually about one of them being a “decider” and one of them being a “thinker”, they had an “aha” moment that 10 years later had forever changed how they did things. Old problems aren’t always big, they just need new eyes to see them.
Reason #2 Relationship Coaching makes your life better – You remove negative patterns.
Habits – We all have them. Many of the habits we have we can’t break with just “knowing” we have them. In an article published by instructional coaching, the ability to implement a new idea went from 15% to 75% simply by adding a coach to the process. In other words, a coach makes it almost 6x more likely you will be successful changing than just learning the skills to change. That is HUGE!
Relationships are interactive, yet develop the same patterns over time. Don’t believe me? Try to sleep on opposite sides of your bed tonight. If you’ve been sleeping on one side for even a week or two, this will be nearly IMPOSSIBLE! You have the pattern and habit of sleeping on your side.
What are some areas a relationship coach can help you develop new habits? Here are a few: Becoming a better listener, learning to use positive language, initiating and engaging is sex, fleeing arguments, blaming, etc. I could go on and on, but your problems are not unique, they are just your “set” of problems. How much better would your life be if you solved even one of your relational habits?
Reason #3 Relationship Coaching makes your life better – You will get faster and fantastic results.
One study done by the Chartered Institute for Personnel Development found that 96% of people found coaching to be the most effective way to learn. Imagine the greatest obstacles in you relationship becoming positive experiences that you had a victory over? How would that change the rest of your life?
I know that right now you are thinking – “You don’t know my problems” or “I just don’t think it will make that much of a difference.” Well, you are right, I don’t know your problems, but I do know lots of people who have benefited from coaching. Recently, after one coaching session, a woman said to me: “You have no idea what this has done for us. You have saved my marriage when I thought it couldn’t be saved.”
Another reason people hesitate is the belief that the problem is not that big and will eventually go away. I recently met with a man who admitted he didn’t know that his wife had planned on leaving him. With tears in his eyes, he thanked me for helping him value his wife and express that value to her in meaningful ways. “I can’t imagine my life without her, and your coaching has helped me restore the love we had when we first met. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you!”
So, these 3 reasons are just a few of the great reasons to get coaching. If you are facing problems in your relationship, would like to learn better communication skills, or just want to make a good relationship even better, you should consider signing up for a coaching session. If you are just beginning your relationship with someone, a few years in, or together for a long time, coaching can get your relationship to the place you want it to be. Relationship Coaching could be the most important decision you’ve ever made for your relationship.
I am excited to announce I am now taking LIMITED online/phone coaching appointments. I only have time for a few coaching clients, so please sign up fast or join our waitlist for when an appointment is scheduled. My coaching page can be found on my menu and a shortcut to it at this link.
Whether you select me or another relationship coach is a personal decision, but try one out and see what a difference maker it can be! I know relationship coaching makes your life better!