How Cancer Made My Marriage Better
The phone rang in my office. “Hi, Dr. Hattabaugh, this is Dr. Smith, your wife wanted me to call you. It’s cancer.”
While we knew the lab results might tell us this, you are never quite ready for it. No marriage is ever fully ready for this shot to the gut I felt when I found that out. I was at a new job, and like most bad news I had trouble believing it. But here is the weird thing – Cancer made my marriage better. (more…)
How to Get Your Man Reading Relationship Articles
It’s easy! Make it about cars!
Want to know how to get a man to learn how to treat a woman? Make it about how treating a woman is a lot like taking care of a car. It needs maintenance to keep it functioning at it’s very best. When you take care of a car, you make it look better and last longer. Relationships need constant upkeep and attention. So, get your man reading relationship articles – start with this one!
Here is my article I wrote for the Farmington Daily Times on how men need to think about their wives the same way they think about car maintenance. Let me know what you think!
Click the link to get the full article, then come back and tell me what you think:
Desperate for Desire
We are desperate for desire. To ignite passion and purpose. To fully exist in a life with meaning.
Some pursue it to the detriment of their health and relationships. With reckless abandon, they choose desire over security. They live firecracker lives with a short fuse and a loud bang. Sex, drugs, and rock-n-roll. Many public personalities pursue this form of desire.
Others try to muffle desire with morality and judgment. It’s not surprising that moralists tend to publically fail from the very social “ills” they condemn. Preachers who preach one thing as an “abomination”, then get caught doing the very thing they say is despicable. Politicians who challenge us to live one way, while they seemingly ignore their own excess.
Most of us, and I think (and hope) I’m in this category, live what feels like a bi-polar life, chasing desire, then pushing it away when it gets too uncomfortable. There is always this tension of living life to it’s fullest, but being liked by others. Of being the “good girl” when your heart senses there is more to life. This article is for you.
I want to talk to average people who try to live a good life, but seem to struggle with an inside “passion” for more. I want you to hear something very clearly:
That voice is NOT bad.
3 Fun Tips to Add Excitement to Your Relationship
Relationships grow stale as we seek to become more secure and stable. The excitement we had when we began becomes secondary to the daily routine relationships fall into. I am specifically talking to long term married couples in this post, but any relationship that is losing the “fun” part can benefit from these 3 fun tips to add excitement to your relationship.
The longer you have been together, the more likely you are thinking your relationship is going stale. The number one reason I have heard in counseling over the years for stress in long-term relationships is the couple loses track of how to have fun like they did when they started dating. The most common reason for an affair is one partner trying to create the excitement a new relationship creates. Don’t have an affair, instead, try these 3 tips. (more…)
How to Avoid Looking Like a Fool in Your Relationship
It’s the end of the week, and you are so looking forward to a weekend with your partner. You have imagined all week about your time with them. You meet them to begin your time together, and……. fast forward:
The weekend was a total wreck.
Nothing went right. You had all of these plans, and all you did was fight or be disappointed that they didn’t want to spend the time with you the way you wanted.
What happened? (more…)
You Need an Adventure in Your Relationship – Here’s How.
I’ve known many couples who seem to be married to the right person. Everything about them seems to be a good fit. They have the same beliefs, compatible desires for what they want with children and lifestyle. They even seem to be living in a fairy tale marriage.
But they are miserable.
They aren’t telling each other they are miserable, but secretly, they wish they were free, unattached, and going anywhere but where they are. (more…)
Why You Need to get OFF the Bandwagon
Advertising and Culture try to take us places. They tell us everyone is going there. They are right. Everyone is going there, but why are you? There is ONE reason why you need to get OFF the bandwagon.
Everybody wants you to get on. “Choose my politician” “Choose my car” “Choose my lifestyle” Be like me. Look like me. Believe like me. If you spend any amount of time listening to the messages being thrown at you, you are bombarded with bandwagoners. Some estimates say as many as 5000 messages a day.
There is one very simple reason to stop. Here it is: (more…)
Why Beautiful Relationships Come From Positive People
We all have that person we dread to see coming. We know what will happen as soon as they get there. Negativity. Everything that comes out of their mouth is a downer. Most people I know try to avoid these people if they can like going a different path through the office to avoid their area.
Nobody wants to be around negative people all the time, but what would our spouse say about us? Many people who avoid the “negative” person at work ARE the negative person to their partner and don’t realize how much damage they are doing to their relationship. So, I want to tell you why beautiful relationships come from positive people. (more…)