You Can Communicate with ANYONE!

It's up to YOU to adapt to connect with others.

Communicate with ANYONE!  REALLY!

This video shows how finding the right way to communicate with someone is more important that what we have to say.  We can communicate with anyone. Most of us get mad when we can’t connect with someone, BUT if you listen, you can adapt to their communication needs and find a path to understanding.

Those Who Adjust, Inspire

Over the last two years I've traveled the world and met nearly a thousand humans diagnosed with different conditions.This experience has taught me one universal rule that will allow you to form a meaningful bond with anyone.

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Try not to smile when you watch this!! AND let me know in the comments below what you learned from it!  I know I learned I can be even more sensitive to paying attention to what others are showing me and how I can meet them where they are.
– Mike

Dr. Mike Hattabaugh Speaking Promo

Hi Everyone, want to start sharing my AWESOME speaking promo Luke Hawthorn did for me.  If you know ANYONE looking for a keynote speaker, please send them the link to this video and my speaking page.  I love sharing an encouraging, motivational message with groups who want to connect with people and improve business and personal relationships!

(VIDEO)Remarkable Relationships, REALLY a Fantastic Formula!

Never knew MEN were more hormonal than women!

(VIDEO)Remarkable Relationships, REALLY a Fantastic Formula!

So, I’ve been taught all my life that women are more complex creatures hormonally than men.  It turns out that not only is it NOT true, it’s not even CLOSE to being true! Conan O’Brien has Sex Mathematician Clio Cresswell on his show to reveal the mathematical formula for male and female hormones.  You will be SURPRISED at who has the most complex formulas!   Watch the video below to see why I say that Remarkable relationships, REALLY a Fantastic Formula!  It is PG-13 FYI. (IF you subscribe, please click the weblink to view at mikehattabaugh.com)

Remarkable Relationships, REALLY a Fantastic Formula!

So, did that surprise you as much as it did me?  It turns out the hormonal fluctuations of men are happening more rapidly than women.  It might explain a lot of things, but one thing is sure, we don’t really understand the impact of hormonal waves that happen to men daily.  Maybe we should spend more time trying to figure out each other and realize that our emotional and physical well-being are changing all of the time.  It’s also why we should not take a momentary emotional reaction as the “end” of the discussion and instead try to communicate at another time when the hormones are at a different place. Remarkable Relationships, REALLY a Fantastic Formula!

What do YOU think about the complicated formula for men?  What about women?  How do you see these affecting your relationships and do they explain anything you already knew?  I would LOVE to hear from you in the comments below!

mike hattabaugh relationshipsSo get out there and-

Make YOUR Relationships GREAT!

Dr. Mike

Want more help connecting with your partner’s love language? Consider a valuable coaching session with Dr. Hattabaugh!   Schedule a   LIVE relationship coaching session HERE!

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Whose right? My Dogs Teach a Relationship Lesson

Meet Sammy and Peanut, my two lovable Golden Retrievers!  I use them to show us a relationship tip!

My Dogs Teach a Relationship Lesson

I should have turned the camera sideways, but still, a great lesson on why being “right” can ruin a relationship and what to do about it!

Who’s Right? My dogs teach a relationship lesson!

What do you think?  Leave a comment below!  And please like this video on youtube!  It helps us reach even more people like you who want to make their relationships great!

1642b735-08e3-4790-823e-5772612c267bSo get out there and-

Make YOUR Relationships GREAT!

Dr. Mike

Want more help connecting with your partner’s love language? Consider a valuable coaching session with Dr. Hattabaugh!   Schedule a   LIVE relationship coaching session HERE!

How to Love Someone with Quality Time

How to Love Someone with Quality Time

Dr. Gary Chapman is his book The Five Love Languages, discusses how we all like to give and receive love in 5 specific ways.  Many of my readers have asked me to explain how to love someone in their love language.  If you don’t know what your love language is, or your partners start by going to Dr. Chapman’s site and take the test. This fourth article will help you love someone with Quality Time as their love language.

love someone with quality time

I started going shopping with my wife on Saturday afternoons.  Not because I really want to go.  I would much rather watch a football game or hang out at the house.  I go because I am showing her love the way SHE recognizes it.  Her secondary love language is quality time.  Going shopping with her fills her love tank and lets her know that just “hanging out” with her is worth missing a game on TV.  When you love someone with quality time, you don’t have to do anything expensive or super creative.  They just want your presence and proximity to them.  Sure, depending on their other love language you might have a conversation, hold hands, or serve them, but just being there means a lot to people with this love language.

In this post, I want to give you 3 ways on how to love someone with quality time.

How to Love Someone with Quality Time:

love someone with quality time1 – It’s about doing it TOGETHER (not what you are doing).

The biggest mistake I hear about with this love language is people want to do something special.  If you have this love language, you don’t care what you are doing, just that you are doing it together.  You can wash dishes, do laundry, go for a walk or any seemingly boring task and the person with this love language will enjoy the time with you.  They just want you there with them.

I was told by a student that their father reads the paper every morning in a room their mother is doing crafts.  Every morning.  No words are spoken, just his presence in her work room.  She loves it, because he is “hanging out”.

You can find many things to just “hang out” together.  Look for opportunities to be in their space.

love someone with quality time2 – It’s about being WITH them (not them doing what you want to do).

I know a guy who wanted his wife to go fishing with him.  He thought that would be “quality time”.  She went when they were dating, but quit after they were married.  He thought she enjoyed their time together, but he did not spend time doing anything she wanted to do. Shopping and going out were “not fun”. So he didn’t go.  Soon, they quit being together at all and the relationship ruptured.

Quality time is about them doing something they want to do or have to do.  They may choose to “hang out” with you to love you, but if you want them to feel loved, you have to choose their time, not invite them into yours.

love someone with quality time3 – It’s about FOCUS (not about length of time).

Most mornings my wife and I have a cup of coffee in our living room together.  It can last from 10 minutes to an hour.  We are both on our iPads, reading and engaging online.  We don’t say much, but we are doing something together.  The length of time doesn’t matter.

People who struggle to love their partners with this love language usually think it will take up all their time.  It doesn’t have to.  Just be fully present for a length of time.  If you are itching to get it over with, the other person will see that and not feel the “quality” time.  Focus on what you are doing!

love someone with quality time4 – It’s about loving THEM (so ask them if you are doing it right).

If you don’t have this love language, you probably don’t fully grasp how to love someone with it.  When non-English speakers try to speak English – it can be funny.  The unusual pronunciations and irregular verbs make English hard to grasp for someone who doesn’t know it very well.  Quality time can also be like this.

This love language requires more feedback than most of the others.  Feel free to ask your partner or friend if they are enjoying the time you are spending with them.  It might take a bit of tweaking to let them feel the “quality” in the time you are investing.

So, let’s review:

How to Love Someone with Quality Time:

1 – It’s about doing it TOGETHER (not what you are doing).

2 – It’s about being WITH them (not them doing what you want to do).

3 – It’s about FOCUS (not about length).

4 – It’s about loving THEM (so ask them if you are doing it right).

If you really want to love someone, you will make the adjustments to let them feel loved in their love language.  This language can be done DURING activities that engage the other love languages.  Having a good conversation, helping with a chore, or even holding their hand on the couch can make this a 2-1 time and connect at even deeper levels.

To Read more about the other 4 Love languages click on the links below:

Words of Affirmation

mike hattabaugh relationshipsActs of Service

Giving and Receiving Gifts

So get out there and-

Make YOUR Relationships GREAT!

Dr. Mike

Want more help connecting with your partner’s love language? Consider a valuable coaching session with Dr. Hattabaugh!   Schedule a   LIVE relationship coaching session HERE!

 

3 Powerful Secrets of Amazing Business Communication

Why internal communication is key!

Do a quick search for “communication” jobs at any of the online job sites and you will see lots of public relations and marketing jobs.  What you won’t see is what would make the biggest difference,  communication directors.  Most businesses focus on the “shiny” object of PR, yet have horrible internal communication and relationships.  What would your team look like if you had a communication director on your team? I want to tell you 3 powerful secrets of amazing business communication.

Powerful Secrets of Amazing Business Communication

I’ve talked with hundreds of employees over the years that tell a similar story.  They heard about a major company announcement through the media.  This does major damage inside of your business and erodes the trust of your employees.  When outsiders are telling your people about the “news” and they say they didn’t know – you have a problem!

Your lowest level employees should all know EVERYTHING about the major decisions your company/institution is making.  This doesn’t mean you let them decide, but I would bet that nearly 80% of major decisions are announced too late in most organizations. (more…)

How to Love Someone with Gifts

For Me? – How to Love Someone with Gifts

Dr. Gary Chapman is his book The Five Love Languages, discusses how we all like to give and receive love in 5 specific ways.  Many of my readers have asked me to explain how to love someone in their love language.  If you don’t know what your love language is, or your partners start by going to Dr. Chapman’s site and take the test. This second article will help you love someone with Gifts as their love language. (more…)

how to love someone with gifts

How to Love Someone with Acts of Service

How to love Someone with acts of service

“Don’t tell me you love me, show me!”

Dr. Gary Chapman is his book The Five Love Languages, discusses how we all like to give and receive love in 5 specific ways.  Many of my readers have asked me to explain how to love someone in their love language.  If you don’t know what your love language is, or your partners start by going to Dr. Chapman’s site and take the test. This second article will help you love someone with acts of service.

Love Someone with Acts of Service

I had a long day.  I wanted to come home and hear my wife tell me she loved me and give me a hug.  Instead, I had to search for her.  She was in the kitchen, supper was on the stove, and she was washing dishes.

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A Curious Way You can Stop Hate.

A curious way you can stop hate.

Once again, we have experienced untold tragedy in America.

We all were sickened by the horror that unfolded in Orlando on Sunday.  Once again, a crazy, armed to the teeth Islamic terrorist killed too many people.

way you can stop hate

What was more shocking to me were the memes, comments, and posts that came after.  Before the bodies were even removed from the building we were blaming.  We were hating.

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